Photo: Saskia Schultz-Marjanna Some people are still living under the table in the basement of your own castle ' - That the metaphor of a Berlin psychologist. Always meet again doctors, coaches and therapists to people who do not know where your talents lie dormant
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Successful ever speak of her crystal-clear view of their talents and what they have done to live this well. The others are waiting often very secretly to redemption and the modern prince or princess. Some have given up hope.
coaches do in their daily practice time and again that women and men of all backgrounds live below their means. In particular, women go with "the handbrake on" with their lives. Is it any wonder if they are dissatisfied? It are often strong women who always hide their strengths and make their true light under a bushel. There are many reasons why they do so. Almost unnoticed in society have typical female thinking and behavior patterns slipped into their nature. Patterns that inhibit their free development.
The psychologist Ursula Nuber speaks of ten typical female barriers, their inhibitory activity many women are unaware:
first Guilty
second False modesty
third Cult beauty
4th Harmony addiction
5th Excessive self-criticism
6th Perfection forced
7. For high sensitivity
8th (Exaggerated) self-doubt
9th Shame
10th (small) girl behavior.
But men in higher occupational positions often live below their talent border. Why?
If not this internalizations base rates such as: "I'm not important." Or: "I am not really matter." And from the following: ". I deserve nothing good" women as men have records from their childhood to Today internalized such as: "Take not that important. First of the others. Cobbler, stick to thy last. You do not always about you . Think . We're just little people "Some people like to take this self-hypnosis would if they only knew how?
There are many ways to do this. One possibility might be: self-coaching. Just a day off - for example at the weekend - Insert and think about themselves. A one-day seminar to do with himself. The goal: to find out what man / woman can do best. What really (!) Pleasure. Let me think: What do like my friends and Friends like me? Which words, I am often - or at least every now and again - praise. What is it that bosses and colleagues, what my teachers? And then ask the question: If these Talents living or take care of them so to himself?
To prepare for the day's seminar with yourself, you can / anmailen woman friend inside and close acquaintances, with the request to answer those questions
. All other times you ask casually in conversation. Write down and analyze the day Seminar with itself. Find out what a self-characterized. In the self-perception and perception.
Then write your own conclusions, and recommendations for action in itself. "
It will make trouble - but the work is worth it. Anyone who even appreciates, will find people who do the same. Those who stay on the ball, his attention and his work on its intended objectives will be successful. Recognition will automatically follow.
welcome in the park!
Lilli Cremer-Altgeld
But men in higher occupational positions often live below their talent border. Why?
If not this internalizations base rates such as: "I'm not important." Or: "I am not really matter." And from the following: ". I deserve nothing good" women as men have records from their childhood to Today internalized such as: "Take not that important. First of the others. Cobbler, stick to thy last. You do not always about you . Think . We're just little people "Some people like to take this self-hypnosis would if they only knew how?
There are many ways to do this. One possibility might be: self-coaching. Just a day off - for example at the weekend - Insert and think about themselves. A one-day seminar to do with himself. The goal: to find out what man / woman can do best. What really (!) Pleasure. Let me think: What do like my friends and Friends like me? Which words, I am often - or at least every now and again - praise. What is it that bosses and colleagues, what my teachers? And then ask the question: If these Talents living or take care of them so to himself?
To prepare for the day's seminar with yourself, you can / anmailen woman friend inside and close acquaintances, with the request to answer those questions
. All other times you ask casually in conversation. Write down and analyze the day Seminar with itself. Find out what a self-characterized. In the self-perception and perception.
Then write your own conclusions, and recommendations for action in itself. "
It will make trouble - but the work is worth it. Anyone who even appreciates, will find people who do the same. Those who stay on the ball, his attention and his work on its intended objectives will be successful. Recognition will automatically follow.
welcome in the park!
Lilli Cremer-Altgeld
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